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What causes you the most stress in a divorce?
By DivorceRecoveryCoach on November 17, 2016
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Holz2016 I am mostly confussed and hurt by the fact he loved,missed,and wanted me to be near then bang...after 26 years he leaves. Moves out and no longer need or wants me that was 7 months ago. There is no one else either. He always was lonely. I doknow that he is not alone cause he has a room mate and tgey do things together. I am still in love and just do not want the divorce. I am tired of the crying and sadness. He seems to not be bothered by this at all. Since i remained in thr home i have reminders of our life together.
DivorceRecoveryCoach If he truly isn't bothered by all this, if he left after 26 years without trying to at least discuss it or try to make it work is proof enough that he is not worthy of your love. This is not OK and I so sorry for what you are going through.
Koderra For me it's the following: - Will I find someone I'm happy with after 25 years being with his person - I'm also overwhelmed and a bit bitter that he chooses not to spend much time with our kids (15, & 18) so they are 99% of the time with me. I LOVE having them, but they need and miss there dad terribly but his priorities are with his new companion. And my kids don't want to be around her.... - Lastly, I realize this might sound crazy but is probably the one that most often crosses my heart/mind when I think about my situation; will my parents (in there early 70's) get the chance to see me fall in love and be happy again. I also think about ALL the good times that we had together and it plays in me head constantly!!! I think of him daily and wonder if he does too? I realize he's in a relationship but I think he done that because this divorce is so painful and he's looking for immediate happiness /gratification. - Why is it so hard for me to move forward but seems like it's so easy for him to move on, It TRULY sucks but we just loved each other wrong and didn't know how to take care of us or each other when we needed it the most. It then becomes bitter, and spiteful with too many hurt feeling that just can't be repaired.
DivorceRecoveryCoach This is such a hard time for you. The best gift you can give yourself is to realize that although bitterness is understandable, it is also hurting you. The quicker you can release it, even a little at a time, the faster you will heal yourself of this emotional cancer.
DivorceRecoveryCoach The uncertainty can be one of the most difficult parts of this. Try focusing on what you can be certain of...things that are under your control. You can choose to love, forgive, learn and grow thus you can be certain about you and who you want to be as a result of this awful situation.
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