need some advice or another ones prospective: here's the scoop: my wife and I have been separated for almost 6yrs (no legal counsel involved).. We just sold our home and paid off all joint debt....We are very amicable / we get along great--we fell out of love w one another and are going separate ways--just the way it is...We are going to file for divorce later this coming year ( doing it without an attorney) but I'm having this Q of: Am I able to get half of her retirement??---or should I just let this go?