I have been married for 14 years and in the relationship for a total of 20 years. I found out on Sept 30th my husband was having a text relationship with a coworker. I told him to get out of our house and he told me that he wouldn't leave because 20 years was worth fighting for and he is going through stuff and he needs time to sort it out (Midlife Crisis) He started acting like he was working on fixing our marriage. Then a month later he tells me he doesn't love me anymore and he wants to be alone so he thinks he wants a divorce. He says That for the past 20 years he hasn't talked about his feelings he's just bottled everything up and he resents me for things which has caused him to stop loving me. I have been told we are getting a divorce but he doesn't want one now. I have no idea what is going on in this nightmare as every day is different from the previous day. I just need a friend who knows how I feel and we can be there for each other.