Thank you for your input. I have talked to my husband and was completely honest. He doesn't want a divorce and either do I right now, but I told him I want to be good friends with him and be roommates for now for many reasons. I am working on being more independent to help myself. He is also an alcoholic and I just can't take it anymore. I am going to al anon meetings.i feel a lot better since I told him how I feel. Polyph