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Overcome the Perils of Divorce

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Fact: Divorce changes you.

Question: Are you allowing yourself to change as you deal with a break-up, separation, or divorce?

Reframe how you look at divorce.

It's easy (and understandable) to view divorce in a doom and gloom mindset. We've all been there. But what if you allowed yourself to look at divorce as a way to grow and evolve into the real you?

Set goals and boundaries (together, if possible).

Yes, divorce is most often synonymous with friction and fighting. But wouldn’t both sides benefit by working toward something positive? Wouldn’t the transition be more peaceful if you were committed to a dignified—instead of disastrous—approach?

Accept the emotions of divorce.

You will have anger. You will be depressed. Everyone feels it. But understand the sources of your negative emotions. Address them. Seek appropriate support when dealing with those emotions, and you’ll set yourself up for truly healthy healing.

Take care of you.

Consider this analogy. When you take a plane flight, the attendant’s pre-takeoff announcement always states: In the event of an emergency, put on your oxygen mask before you do so for your child. Why do they tell you this? Because you cannot take care of anyone unless you take care of yourself first. Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.

Figure out the finances.

Understand what divorce financial planning is all about for your case in particular. It’s also important to plan for individual financial success after your divorce. Look into resources available that will help guide you through a checklist of actions.

Move forward.

The only way you are going to get through your divorce is to move forward, as opposed to remaining stuck in an old story that no longer applies to your life. Yes, it takes time and effort to evolve; but the only way to complete a marathon is taking it stride by stride. The journey is long and challenging; but eventually, you’ll find yourself living a life you couldn’t have previously imagined. And you have the power to make sure your new life is fantastic.

 

We hope you find these tips helpful. The only way these suggestions will pay dividends for you is by making the choice to take action. Make an investment to do the work that will allow you to evolve and grow. 

If you are experiencing marital difficulties, please visit ProConnect to speak with one of our experts. To learn more about our Community, visit www.DivorceForce.com.

Written by Gregory C. Frank, Founder & CEO, DivorceForce

Gregory C. Frank is the CEO and co-founder of DivorceForce, and has spent countless hours researching this subject. Please follow his adventures on Twitter @GregoryCFrank.

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