On the way to success, failure is part of the journey; however it's also the major reason people give up on their dreams.
There is a sense of embarrassment attached to the word failure. The last thing you'd want to do is admit you have failed, as this can make you feel you are not good enough and you don't have what it takes to succeed.
How do you overcome the terrible feeling of having failed and let people down?
Change the way you look at failure.
Say out loud: failure.
What feeling does this word generate? It's probably not good. As human beings, we always seek to feel good; and when something makes us feel uncomfortable, or bad, we try to avoid it at all costs.
Many successful people faced a number of failures before their breakthrough. What if Thomas Edison had given up after he failed the 10th or 100th time? Edison did not see failure as a reason to give up. His view was that he had found many ways that didn't work. Edison knew that if he persisted, he would eventually succeed.
You must shape the way you see and feel about failure. The journey to success is a learning process, and it's different for all of us. By trial and error, you are finding the way that works for you.
Confront your fear of failure.
Like any other fear, the only way to overcome the fear of failure is to confront it. Many don't even attempt to start perusing their dreams, and others will give up not long after starting a business. Either way, fear of failure wins.
"Someone once told me the definition of Hell: The last day you have on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become." —Anonymous
It takes time and effort to build a successful business and career. At times you will want to give up. At times you will question if you'll ever make it. When you feel like that, think of Thomas Edison or of any other successful person you perhaps admire.
"I would wake up in the morning and drive around cold-calling from eight until five. Most doors were slammed in my face. I saw my business card ripped up at least once a week, and I even had a few police escorts out of buildings. It wasn't long before I grew immune to the word no." —Sarah Blakely
If Blakely had given up, she wouldn't have become the billionaire she is today. If others did it, you can do it too.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. Failure is a learning process; it teaches you to become the person you must become to achieve your dreams. You only fail if you give up.
Written by Sofia O'Hara
From the age of 12, Sofia O'Hara's life was a roller coaster. She grew up in an environment where love was highly conditional and experienced one heartbreak after another, ultimately hitting rock bottom. But in November 2011, Sofia embarked on a transformative journey to help her overcome these heartbreaks, learn from her failures, and shape her perception and understanding of love. Learn more about Sophia O'Hara at: www.SofiaOharaCoaching.com.