One of the hardest things in life is to wait. Wait for an answer. Wait for change. Wait for something you want. Whatever you are waiting for make no mistake about it: it’s hard! There’s no wonder why children find it so hard to be patient…they haven’t had a lifetime of ordeals to teach them that sometimes, you just must wait. If we as adults struggle, there’s no doubt it’s not easy.
But the reality is sometimes you have to wait for what you really, really, really want!
In fact, I’ve noticed that sometimes when I push for something that I really want too hard, I end up not getting it or, getting something that doesn’t quite work out because I wasn’t patient enough to have faith and wait.
Of course, there is also something to be said about waiting too long: you settle. Or, you miss opportunities, but sometimes it’s really worth it to wait for what you want.
So, if you’re finding it either hard to have faith or hard to wait for something, consider these reasons for waiting it out.
Because it’s Not Good When Sloppy Mistakes Are Made
When you don’t wait, sloppy mistakes are made. Sure, sometimes time is of the essence and you have to act hastily, but consider dating or finalizing your divorce.
Some of us were too hasty to settle down and ended up with the wrong person.
Some of us rushed our divorces and ended up with an agreement that was less than stellar or perhaps, was more problematic due to the speed.
Whatever the case, when you wait, fewer mistakes can be made. You can be more careful and in this case, it ends up being worth the wait.
Because Sometimes We Are Meant to Wait to Get Something We Need & Not Something We Want
Consider how many times in life you’ve lost out on a job or a dating partner or an opportunity.
Then consider, what options opened up for you instead?
Sometimes we are meant to wait because the world is offering us something we need, as opposed to something we want. Sometimes, we didn’t even realize we had that need until the universe gives us a solution to a problem we didn’t know existed! So, while you wait for what you want, life may give you just what you need.
Because There is a Bigger Priority to Address
You really wanted your divorce to be final…stat!
You really wanted to go on vacation but you can’t yet.
You really wanted her to commit to you.
Sometimes these wanted things in life are put on hold in order for us to prioritize a more important matter.
Like perhaps, your house needs to get sold first before you two can sign divorce papers.
Or maybe you need to wait it out on the lady friend because right now, you’re about to get a big promotion or meet someone better.
Whatever the case may be, sometimes we must wait for what we want in order to put out fires or address other issues.
Because We Aren’t Quite as Ready as We Think We Are
Here you are waiting for Mr. Right or a job promotion but alas, crickets. Not one ounce of significant action and you’re about ready to eat nails.
Before you swallow those nails, consider that maybe a few things still need to happen for you to be ready for that big promotion or for your life partner.
You might still need a little tweaking. It will all happen in time.
And yes, I know the waiting sucks.
Because We Want Something That’s Not Good For Us
There you are hoping that a certain outcome will happen from a situation but really, it’s not a good option for you.
It may seem like one, but the world knows otherwise.
There is something that in the long run, will be better for you or you and your loved ones, and so you have to wait until this comes to fruition.
Because We’ll Get More Than We Hoped For
Here you were hoping for someone to hang out with post-divorce or perhaps, waiting for a new job offer or a new place…when suddenly after some time, someone or something incredibly amazing lands in your lap!
All that waiting was worth it because something even better than what you hoped for was due to come your way.
Really, waiting is the worst. I’m so impatient that I want things done yesterday. So many of us are like this but the fact is, sometimes your tenacity, faith, and patience will bring you something, someone or some “results” beyond your wildest dreams. Have faith that the best is yet to come and indeed, it will!
Laura Lifshitz is a pint-sized, battery-operated, writer, comedienne, and single mother. Laura will work for chocolate. The former MTV personality and Columbia University graduate is currently writing about divorce, sex, women’s issues, fitness, parenting, marriage and more for the New York Times, DivorceForce, Women’s Health, Redbook, Working Mother, Pop Sugar, Your Tango and numerous other sites. Her own website is frommtvtomommy.com.