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Divorce Spring Cleaning – Letting Go of Material Items After a Divorce (by: Jennifer Butler)

Your divorce is final. The dust has settled. You look around at all the things you fought so hard to keep, the possessions that once mattered so much that you never dreamed you could live without them. Except now, when you sit down and really look, you realize they no longer bring you the comfort they used to. Now, if you are being honest, you start to notice they serve as a reminder of a time gone by, memories you may wish away, and a future that is no longer. You look around at the things you can still call yours and feel a sense of weight that you can’t seem to figure out how to lift.

The stuff of your past, the items that create a roadmap to where you are today, hold energy within them and can be seen as a symbol of all that needs to be let go. There will come a time when you feel ready to release the past and find ways to move forward. A time when you will know that getting rid of the old is necessary for you to be able to make way for the new. When you understand that removing things from your physical space is one small step you can take toward lifting that weight pressing down on you.

The time has come for a thorough spring-cleaning of your environment and the removal of the sentimental items decorating your space. The time has come for you to take this step and clear the way for the future that lies before you.

Where do you begin and what are your options?

Making the decision to dispose of items that have sentimental value can be difficult for many reasons, one of which is figuring out exactly what to do with them. You could simply just throw them away or maybe choose to create a bonfire and burn items as a ceremony of release and letting go. If these don’t sound like you, I have found some options that may be just what you are looking for.

The Items to Clean Out After a Divorce:

 

1) Jewelry

When you are married, many of the gifts bestowed upon you come in the form of jewelry. Each piece usually has a story behind it, holds some sort of sentimental memory with it, and carries an energetic connection. When you think about selling your engagement ring or any other piece of sentimental jewelry, the most important thing is to find a company that has compassion for the process you are going through and can be trusted to bring you value.

Worthy is a direct auction company that brings buyers and sellers together to bring you the fairest market value for your items in a way that values integrity, transparency, and convenience. Through a very simple and quick process, the company shows you comparisons for your items, gets your items graded by the GIA, and puts them to sell at auction quickly. Throughout the entire process, there is someone dedicated to you to answer your questions and keep you informed every step of the way.

 

2) Clothing

Throughout life, there are experiences that hold a place in your memory, and for most, one thing you remember is what you were wearing. Perhaps it was that amazing dress from your honeymoon or the shoes you wore on your anniversary that everyone complimented you on. These are items you may have loved and brought you joy, but now only remind you of times you wish to forget. You could easily throw away clothes or donate them, but having the option to receive money in exchange for them can provide you with a sense of fulfillment and excitement.

ThredUp is an online thrift store and consignment store that makes it simple, easy, and hassle-free for you to sell the clothes and accessories you no longer want. There are a couple of options for how you can work with them, but basically, they send you a Clean Out bag, you pack the items into that bag and mail it back using their prepaid shipping. They place your items on sale and when someone else buys them, they place the money into your account. They even work directly with charities in case you decide to combine the option to donate with your Clean Out.

 

3) Mementos

As the years go by in your marriage, memories of the journey together are often collected in the symbols you display throughout your home. There may be a special painting in your bedroom, dishes that you eat on, or a one of a kind chair that your ex loved so dearly. As insignificant as these items may seem, they actually hold a great deal of emotion and impact your thoughts and decisions on a daily basis. Clearing your space of memories can allow you to make space for new memories to be created.

Craig’s List and Facebook are easy ways to sell your things for a profit, both offering platforms to highlight your items in front of buyers. Another option is to use this as a perfect opportunity to donate to those in need and give back to the community. The Salvation Army and The Goodwill are just a couple of companies that will easily take things off your hands and get them to people who need them most.

Clearing out the physical items in your space after your divorce can be a powerful step in letting go and moving on into your future. Give yourself the gift of lifting away that weight, give yourself the gift of freedom.

 

Jennifer Butler is a writer and life coach who has navigated through her own divorce as well. To find more of her writing, head over to www.jennjoycoaching.com or www.instagram.com/jennjoycoaching.

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PattyBlueHayes

7 months ago

This is such valuable advice and something that can be incredibly heart wrenching to do. I'd add in to have a friend help you, and maybe in the... read more

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